When our Soulmate Opts Out

When our Soulmate Opts Out

Very few things are as painful emotionally, for men and women alike, as losing (or never consummating) a relationship with someone you feel is a soul partner. Autumn brings back this sense of emptiness, like if a part of our souls will never be ours again. From crying ourselves to sleep when night comes , to walking like zombies through the day, each step reminds us of the one we lost.

And it doesn’t seem to matter whether you recognized the other person as a soul friend, soul mate, or some other kind of soul partner… the fact is, if you have the unshakeable conviction that the purpose the two of you share is unfulfilled, then it seems impossible to let go.

If you find yourself hearing and even agreeing with loving advice and even harangues from friends and family about letting go – and still not being able to let go! – take heart. You can and will heal and move on.

In order to find your way through to healing in these cases, it’s essential to work on it at a soul, not a personality, level. This is important for several reasons.

First, if you’re approaching this on a soul level (see below for one method) you won’t interfere with anyone’s karma or free will.

Second, since the agreement was originally made on a soul level, it can only be fully understood on that level.

And third, since your Soul or Higher Self will be your mediator, it gives you absolute freedom and safety in which to express all your feelings, the high and the low, the murderous and the weepy, the vengeful and the compassionate.

Soul Level Mediation

In the following meditation, your two souls communicate with each other on behalf of their respective people. Then the souls “repackage” the information and insights and compassion they exchanged, and give it to their individual people in whatever form is most effective, whether it’s in dreams, or gut feelings, or signs, or as clear messages during the session.

To prepare for the meditation, create a quiet space, and place two chairs facing each other. As you do this visualization, remember that the more senses you use at each stage, imagining or feeling sight, sound, taste, touch, feeling and intuition, the more parts of your brain are activated, and the more effective the meditation and its outcome will be.

Sit in one chair, and imagine your soul partner sitting in the other. Visualize your Soul as a star high over your head, and that a beam of light connects your Soul to you, shining down through the top of your head, through your body, and down to the core of the earth. Then imagine your soul partner has the same connection with their soul star. Then complete the “grid” by sending a beam of light from your soul star to the other soul star.

Next, give it all to your Soul, everything, the good the bad and the ugly. Cry if you need to, or scream, but let it all hang out! Then sit quietly while the souls commune. And expect the unexpected, from having the soul partner imagined in the other chair actually converse, to having them call on the phone at the end of the meditation.

You can do this meditation as often as you like, and you should do it two to three times at a minimum. If you’re willing to invest even a tenth of the time into your healing process that you’ve spent feeling miserable, you will not only be able to determine whether or not it’s time to move on – and then do it if need be – you’ll also have found closure in the process.

The "Real" Law of Attraction

The "Real" Law of Attraction
There are so many books promising love, success, money, fame and fortune, if we only follow the rules of these two laws. Given how much material can be found on these topics, one would think that a lot more of us would be a lot more successful. This is because all of these “proven methods” don’t mention a few things that will not only drastically change the outcome, but actually leave you in the exact same spot you found yourself in before you read the book, minus whatever money you spent on the “proven method.”

The Law of Attraction

Wouldn’t it be great if we could all find the love of our lives, our soul mate and life mate, by just following the instructions of a book? Oh, how we hope… and each time another discovery is made that tells us that this is now the real way of finding true love, because new scientific discoveries, as well as ancient truths from a magical book hidden under a rock in the Sahara desert, which carbon dated back 5,000 years ago, are definitely going to work… even for you!

The Law of Attraction does work! But what most “experts” fail to share is the minor detail that you attract who you are, and what you think of yourself! You just have to believe—and, of course, you have to know that you deserve. Just keep repeating the mantra of “I deserve.” It might actually finally get stuck… and backfire!

Why, you ask? A person with low self-esteem, a person who is negative and down on themselves, will usually not suddenly become confident by reading a book, period. Yes, everything is possible, but not by sitting on your butt and doing nothing! Changes require work, and usually hard work! So a person without a shred of confidence will usually repeat the mantra, but take it to a completely new level of extremism. This is when they start telling the whole world “darn it, I do deserve!” The previously sad rants then turn into narcissistic statements of how great they are… and how, sadly, no one recognizes it. Meanwhile, the love they are so desperately seeking stays hidden, because now they sound like desperate and still insecure tools, versus just being downers before.

If we are broken, we will usually attract others who are broken. If we are superficial, we will attract another, who is also superficial. The whole myth of opposites attracting is true for about one minute. Usually, opposites will drive each other crazy in the long run, and do not work out. And when I mean opposite, I mean truly opposite in character and being. Not something lame like different tastes in music or food!

Attracting true happiness has to always start with oneself and the willingness to grow, which means change. I’m a firm believer in therapy, but there are other ways as well. In order to attract what truly makes you happy, you have to first learn to be happy with yourself, knowing who you are and what you really want. Only when you know these things will you know what you truly deserve, without having to blast it from the rooftops.

The Law of Abundance

The same principal listed above also applies for this law. Hence, it is pretty difficult to achieve abundance! For example, when I lost my job, it was pretty hard to sit around and say to myself “don’t worry; you have abundance in your life. You’ll find something and you won’t lose everything you own over it.” The more time that went by, the harder it was to be “positive.” But I knew that if I started panicking or appearing desperate in job interviews, I’d just make my situation worse. But this is where it came in handy that I had done at least some of the work! I did know what I was worth and who I am, even though my foundation had become a bit shaky. I simply would not accept defeat. The thought of losing my home, my car or everything simply didn’t get any power from me. Oh yes, these thoughts occurred, but I would immediately stop myself in my tracks and do something productive, like writing. For some strange reason, maybe because I grew up in such poor conditions, money has not been a source of anxiety or fear in many years. Not because I am so well off, but because I won’t give power to the fear. And while I never became rich, I always had a roof over my head (a nice one), money to pay my car, buy clothes and eat the food I want.

The thing that no one likes to hear is that the life we are living is an immediate result of who we believe we are and what we think is possible. To become this person of Zen, the person who attracts others, in business and personal life, the one with the great friends, the nice things and the happy relationship, and the one who truly feels at peace with themselves and the world, one has to be willing to pay the price. And the price is work.

But I kept my eyes on the prize, and after a while it became a little easier. I started to attract completely different people and situations. But then, I no longer see myself the same way I did a mere year ago, not to mention two or three years ago. I can’t quite describe it, because I am still the same person—and yet, I am completely different. I can do and say things now that I never thought possible. With each passing day, the “new” me is getting stronger, while the old tapes in my head are slowly being overwritten and erased.

I do believe that both laws are accurate and will work. But I never thought it would take that much hard work, dedication and will power to make them happen.

Cutting Energy Cords

Cutting Energy Cords

Energetic cords are lines of psychic energy which connect you to the people in your life. When relationships become unhealthy or abusive, they can become troublesome – if you’re trying to get somebody out of your life who you feel is draining you, and you can’t seem to shake them, often finding your mind drawn back to them and awash in negative feelings – you might be said to be “corded.” Some lightworkers were asked what is the best way to deal with energetic cords:

“Cutting energetic cords is very simple to do,and it can truly restore health and vigor. It may even heal what ails you. It will give you back all of the glorious potential your life has always represented. Cutting energetic cords is something that I have had to do many times. Sometimes the reasons are not even due to negativity, but rather to remove a deep sense of loss and sadness.

“It’s not that I needed to cut out the negativity. Nor did I wish to undo those strong bonds of love. What I needed was to gain a happy spirit again. Cutting cords was necessary to move on with my own life. Sometimes this is very hard to do when someone is missed so terribly. Yet, it can be done. The relationship with loved ones is not over, though knowing one another in the ‘ether’ is very different than a relationship in the physical present. The cords I had to cut were tethers of emotional sadness that often accompany a forced change when a partner, beloved family member, friend or pet departs.

“With belief, this can be a rather easy thing to do. I approach it as if it were a spiritual ceremony. I light candles to quiet an active mind. I breathe deeply and try to achieve a state of calm. When I’m ready, I ask for help and understanding. I ask for cooperation from Spirit and the loved one from whom I am trying to separate. I picture the cord in my mind, reaching out into space, still firmly attached to my target. Sometimes, with lots of affection in my heart, I picture it as a beautiful piece of ribbon. I hold it with my left hand and thank Spirit for all of our rich experience together. They, I purposefully pick up a big pair of imaginary shears and quickly cut the cord. The sense of relief is generally immediate.

“This practice can be used for many different scenarios. You may wish to separate for all time from an abusive relationship. There may be jealous coworkers about who always try to sabotage your best efforts. There could have been a nagging, harping relative who told you that you would never amount to anything. It is perfectly alright to walk away from anyone who intends you harm. It is also absolutely okay to cut the cords that bind you to another’s negative opinion of you, a painful memory or a difficult and energy-draining tug of war. You can tweak the imaginary process in any way that you choose.

“We are so good at creating negativity all by ourselves. It may surprise you to know, you can just as easily remove it for all time.”

“The best way to cut energetic cords is NOT TO CUT THEM! If you just cut, then you leave dangling ends attached to you and to the person at the other end, ends which can (and often do) reattach easily.

“The best way to remove unwanted cords is to gently pull them – by the roots! – from your energy field, and then from the energy field of the other person. Next, bundle up the removed cord and use any technique you like to send the energy back to the Universe to be neutralized and recycled.

“I often work with cords when I do readings, using exactly the technique I described above. However, I’d rather teach callers to be alert for cords themselves, especially negative cords or ones which are attached anywhere other than your throat, heart or second (sacral) chakra, because those can be problematic.

“It also helps to be able to recognize the nature of the energy in a cord, and therefore the cord’s intent … whether you can see it clairvoyantly, or feel discomfort in your body, doesn’t matter. It’s the awareness that counts, and then using just a bit of care when you disconnect.”

What are your favorite ways to cut energetic cords?
Would love to hear form you

Cosmic Consciousness: Chakra 7

Chakra 7 – Cosmic Consciousness - Sahasrara – (Thousandfold)


Element: Thought


Function and Purpose: Understanding


Obstacle: Attachment


Balanced Inner States: Crystal-clear perception, awakened and aware, intelligence, spiritually connected to Source, thoughtful, wisdom.


Unbalanced Inner States: Apathy; general and spiritual, disconnected from Source, rigid views and beliefs, confusion, materialism, greed, ruling and controlling of others.

Location: Top of the head


Color: Violet

We have now reached our final destination in the chakra system: the crown chakra. We started by planting our roots deep into the rich soil of the earth, creating stability and a solid foundation for ourselves. Next, we moved into the flowing, life-giving waters of our sacral chakra where we learned to balance and express our emotional and sexual natures in a healthy, balanced and dynamic way. We then entered the brilliant fires of transformation and personal power in the solar chakra, boosting us into the lush, green gardens of our hearts, enabling us to love unconditionally and begin our ascent into the realms of spirit. From our hearts, we grew into the blue skies and magnificent symphony of our throat chakra – the gateway to creativity and clear communication, where we climbed higher into the spiritual realm and into our third eye, developing our intuition, perception and psychic abilities and now, ascending to the the highest realm of spiritual connection, our seat of enlightenment and understanding.

Our 7th chakra, or crown chakra, holds the entirety of the chakra system which connects us to the universe of true source – the final step in ultimate spiritual liberation and the seat of our essential being. It is our true self which is beyond the confines of ego and reason and can only be experienced.

This is where we perceive the ultimate consciousness of the meaning and understanding of the interconnectedness and order of all things, essentially, it is the source of enlightenment.

The crown chakra, having its element as thought, is associated with the mind. It is the storehouse of all our belief systems and the matrix from which we create our own realities. These realities can be likened to a Shakespearean tragedy or the comedy of our modern-day jesters. Whether our lives are played out as a comedy, tragedy, or a satirical play, we are the stars and creators of our own living masterpieces. This is the power of the 7th chakra.

To create and manifest our individual realities, we must first have consciousness which has various layers and functions. But without any type of somewhat developed consciousness, our connection, transformation and powers of manifestation are severely limited and unlikely without awareness – the ability to silently and passively witness our thoughts and the inner workings of our minds. Through the development of our 7th chakra and awareness through meditative practices, we are able to join both the infinite and finite consciousness, bringing forth transcendence and ultimately, enlightenment.

Consciousness

Consciousness in terms of our crown chakra, as well as all spiritual aspirations, can be broken down into two types: Perceptive Consciousness – finite consciousness limited to the physical, material world, and Absolute Consciousness – infinite and universal consciousness of the eternal.

Each of our chakras has its own unique layer of consciousness, with our roots representing the dense, physical and material realm of manifestation, and our crown representing the realm of our spiritual consciousness and its ethereal manifestations.

When working your way up the chakra system starting from the root up to the crown, you are engaging the consciousness of spiritual liberation and manifestation – when working downwards from the crown to root, you are opening the channel of the physical, material consciousness and manifestation. However, in today’s world the primary focus has been on spiritual manifestation and largely ignoring the physical and material aspects. But this is a highly imbalanced practice. Spiritual and physical consciousness are both equally important and share a symbiotic relationship. It’s only by opening our crown chakra that we are able to merge the perceptive and absolute consciousness that we are able to manifest ourselves as spiritual beings having a human experience.

Soul Agreements

Their blessings and challenges

Many spiritual teachers say that every person's soul purpose is nothing more--and nothing less--than to experience joy, expansion and the growth of wisdom and compassion, lifetime after lifetime. Exactly how that joyful expansion and growth are accomplished, however, is up to each individual, evolving soul.

It's important to remember that there's a big difference between soul purpose and life purpose. Your soul purpose is conceived of and directed by your eternal self, your Soul, and usually unfolds in stages that can last several lifetimes. You could call each stage the Soul's "current mission." Your life purpose, on the other hand, is basically a set of goals and objectives which were developed by your Soul specifically for this present incarnation, with the intent of furthering your Soul's current mission.

And when you, as your Soul, sit down at the Big Conference Table in the Sky to plot out your next lifetime's goals and objectives, you're not alone. With you are usually many members of your soul family, individuals who have traveled with you through several lifetimes, or a few, and who join you in plotting an intricate web of interconnecting life threads, encounters that will assist or challenge you, and them, to make the most of your coming incarnation.

Together you plan when and where you'll meet. You cheerfully build in obstacle courses and synchronicities to keep things interesting. You decide on gifts and difficulties for your individual personalities, and whether you will take the role of friend, lover, family, Spirit Guide--or even enemy--this time around. And just to keep things suspenseful, you give each Soul's incarnated personality the free will privilege of "opting out" of any Agreement, at any time, perhaps with karmic consequences, perhaps not, depending on how you make your choices, and why.

Your Soul Agreements are the result of all this creative brainstorming among Eternal Beings. And, while it's is not true for everyone, many people discover that nearly every one of their important relationships has a Soul Agreement.

There are a number of ways to recognize the existence of a Soul Agreement in a relationship, although the specific parameters of the agreement aren't always so easy to pinpoint. Always, the relationships are intense and full of meaning. Usually, when you meet there's a sense of recognition that's irresistible, and that can be misinterpreted by your personality or ego, especially when the possibility for romance exists. Often the relationship has built-in challenges or obstacles that require effort and commitment to overcome. Conversely, it can be so easy in the beginning that when obstacles do appear, it's shocking, and can cause the relationship to collapse.

What if the parent or sibling who caused the most difficulty and heartache in your youth is actually a friend from prior lifetimes, one who agreed to take on the unpleasant task of helping you build your emotional and spiritual strength through challenge? Or to help you to balance karma by learning to treat them, in all their awfulness, with forgiveness and unconditional love?

Or perhaps you and another member of your soul clan will decide to spend a few lifetimes meeting and loving, but unable to find your way to happily ever after. Perhaps this choice will help you each develop your capacity for faith, your trust in the long-term, many-lifetime promise of consummated love, or your ability to give and receive wholehearted, unconditional love in spite of conditions. Or so that at least one of you will be forced to develop self-reliance or the ability to commit fully to the greater good of spouse and children rather than personal gratification.

It's not always easy to divine the intent behind Soul Agreements, especially the ones that are painful, usually because when you're focused on the personality level, you lack the necessary perspective. But your Angels and Spirit Guides can often help you at least understand what your Soul wants you to learn from the experience. Astrology, numerology and psychic readings can also help.

When you look at each of your relationships as though they contain a Soul Agreement, you get a whole new perspective about the purpose and meaning of what's happening between you. When you look at it from a Soul perspective, even when you haven't figured out the details of a particular Agreement, suddenly things become less personal, the drama that accompanies personality conflicts dissipates magically, and you are freed to learn the things that your Soul had in mind when it created the Agreement before you were ever born.

Chakra 6 – The Third Eye - Ajna - (To Perceive)
Element: Light

Function and Purpose: Sight, perception, intuition, visualization, imagination

Obstacle: Illusion

Balanced Inner States: Strong intuition, strong ability in creative visualization, keenly perceptive, imaginative

Imbalanced Inner States: Inability to visualize or imaging the future, insensitive, living in denial

Location: Center of the forehead or slightly between and above the eyes

Color: Indigo

So far we have moved from our roots, growing strong and deep into the earth, up into the flowing waters of our emotions and sexuality, to the sunlight of personal power and transformation, into the lush, green forest of unconditional love, to the clear blue skies of communication, and now into the indigo stratosphere of inner sight and visualization.

The sixth chakra, more commonly referred to as our third eye, is located in the center of the brain (and can be exteriorly felt between the eyebrows), and is the source of inner and outer sight and perception. Its primary function, however, is seeing beyond the physical, material realm, and it is the inner visionary aspect of our thought and mental workings of the mind.

Our sixth chakra is often referred to as “the seat of the soul” and is the fundamental source of creative visualization, imagination and psychic ability, as it is one more step into the ethereal and spiritual realms of the chakra system.

Through the process of light perception within our physical sight, we are able to take in the images we see in the outer realm of physical manifestation, and process and store this information in the inner, visionary realm of perception which can be used in the process of creative visualization and imagination.

When our sixth chakra is balanced, we have the ability to clearly imagine and visualize the positive future which we desire. The images and visualization process flows freely, yet is guided by the structure of our choosing through the use of our mental processes. When the brow chakra is imbalanced, however, our visualization processes and imagination can either be non-existent or lack the structured guidance necessary to focus our energy into creating the future we long for – much like a ship out to sea, without a rudder, at the mercy of the wind and storms.

The most important aspect of the sixth chakra is psychic ability, which is within each and every person and can be developed through practice and patience. The third eye allows seeing beyond time and space, giving us the ability to move freely between the interconnectedness of past, present and future, which manifests itself in the form of visions, images and cosmic insight and perception

Rainbow Children
Think of yourself as an incandescent power, illuminated and perhaps forever talked to by God and his messangers…Brenda Ueland
The rainbow children are the third generation of special children that have come to help humanity evolve. Different from the Indigo and Crystal children, Rainbow children have a few more interesting characteristics. The Rainbow children are generally born in the year 2000 and above. In some cases, there might also be a few scouts that came to earth before 2000. The few Rainbow children that are here today are born from early Crystal scouts that were born in the 1980’s.

As the name implies, the Rainbow children come to earth with a few more other spectrum of ray color. They are born on the ninth dimension of consciousness, the dimension of collective consciousness.

As many people might have experienced it, the Rainbow children bring joy and harmony to their families. Unlike the Indigo and Crystal children, the Rainbow child is born to smile, which is accompanied by their huge hearts that are full of forgiveness.

Doreen Virtue describes characteristics of Rainbow children:

· Very few currently incarnated.

· Parents are crystal adults.

· Never incarnated before.

· No karma.

· Do not choose dysfunctional families.

· They are all about service.

· May have big eyes like the crystal children, but they are totally trusting.

· Entirely fearless of everybody.

· Bringing in the healing rainbow energy previously brought through Reiki, QiGong, and Pranic healing and other hands on healing.

Crystal children can also be very high energy, have strong personalities, be creative, and can instantly manifest anything they want or need.

The purpose of the Rainbow children is to complete the final stages of the foundation that the Indigo and Crystal children have made. The three children, Indigo, Crystal, and Rainbow each have a specific task. The Indigo children are to break down the paradigm of the traditional thinking. Then the Crystal children will build their foundation on the broken paradigm. Finally, the Rainbow children are here to build on to what the Indigo and Crystal children began.

Doreen Virtue says, “the Rainbow children are perfectly balanced in their male and female energies. They are confident without aggressiveness; they are intuitive and psychic without effort; they are magical and can bend time, become invisible, and go without sleep and food. The Crystal children’s sensitivities make them vulnerable to allergies and rashes. The angels say that the Rainbow children will have overcome this aspect… Rainbow children have no karma, so they have no need to choose chaotic childhoods for spiritual growth...The Rainbow children operate purely out of joy, and not out of need or impulse. The babies will be recognized, because their energy is one of giving to parents, and not of neediness. Parents will realize that they cannot out-give their Rainbow children, for these children are a mirror of all actions and energy of love. Whatever loving thoughts, feelings, and actions that you send to them are magnified and returned a hundred-fold.”

Rainbow children are already attuned to the world we are moving towards when things will instantly manifest. Humanity as a whole is not there yet, so the mass consciousness grid holds back instant manifestation from being commonplace. A toddler has a hard time understanding that. They feel if they “think” juice, well then juice ought to naturally appear instantly. In higher dimensions this may be true and it will be true here on Earth as well, thanks to the Rainbow kids making it so.

Rainbow Children tend to:

· Have very strong wills and personalities.

· Be very high energy.

· Be very attuned to color and color vibrations around them.

· Have passionate creativity.

· Love bright clothing and colorful environments.

· Bubble over with enthusiasm for everything in life.

· Expect instant manifestation of whatever they think/need.

· Have healing abilities.

· Have telepathy.

The Rainbow children seem to be here to implement the Divine Will and they will use their strong will and energy to build the New World on the foundation of peace and harmony the Crystal children are laying down. The Crystal children are only able to lay down that foundation because the Indigo children have already forged the path and broken down all of the old barriers. They are all-important and have to come in this sequence to accomplish their goals.

Rainbows are highly sensitive, loving, forgiving, and magical like the Crystal children. The difference is that the Rainbows have never before been on earth, so they have no karma to balance. The Rainbows, therefore, choose entirely peaceful and functional households. They don’t need chaos or challenges to balance karma or grow.

As the other Crystal children grow older, they will be the peace-loving parents who birth the new Rainbow children. The Rainbows being born right now are the scouts, and the large influx of Rainbows will occur during the years 2010 through 2030.

Rainbow children are absolutely open hearted, love unconditionally, and have no fear towards any stranger. Unlike the Crystal children who only display affection to people warranting their trust, the Rainbows are universally affectionate. They heal us with their huge heart chakras, and envelop us in a blanket of rainbow-colored energy that we so sorely need. They are our earth angels.