When our Soulmate Opts Out

When our Soulmate Opts Out

Very few things are as painful emotionally, for men and women alike, as losing (or never consummating) a relationship with someone you feel is a soul partner. Autumn brings back this sense of emptiness, like if a part of our souls will never be ours again. From crying ourselves to sleep when night comes , to walking like zombies through the day, each step reminds us of the one we lost.

And it doesn’t seem to matter whether you recognized the other person as a soul friend, soul mate, or some other kind of soul partner… the fact is, if you have the unshakeable conviction that the purpose the two of you share is unfulfilled, then it seems impossible to let go.

If you find yourself hearing and even agreeing with loving advice and even harangues from friends and family about letting go – and still not being able to let go! – take heart. You can and will heal and move on.

In order to find your way through to healing in these cases, it’s essential to work on it at a soul, not a personality, level. This is important for several reasons.

First, if you’re approaching this on a soul level (see below for one method) you won’t interfere with anyone’s karma or free will.

Second, since the agreement was originally made on a soul level, it can only be fully understood on that level.

And third, since your Soul or Higher Self will be your mediator, it gives you absolute freedom and safety in which to express all your feelings, the high and the low, the murderous and the weepy, the vengeful and the compassionate.

Soul Level Mediation

In the following meditation, your two souls communicate with each other on behalf of their respective people. Then the souls “repackage” the information and insights and compassion they exchanged, and give it to their individual people in whatever form is most effective, whether it’s in dreams, or gut feelings, or signs, or as clear messages during the session.

To prepare for the meditation, create a quiet space, and place two chairs facing each other. As you do this visualization, remember that the more senses you use at each stage, imagining or feeling sight, sound, taste, touch, feeling and intuition, the more parts of your brain are activated, and the more effective the meditation and its outcome will be.

Sit in one chair, and imagine your soul partner sitting in the other. Visualize your Soul as a star high over your head, and that a beam of light connects your Soul to you, shining down through the top of your head, through your body, and down to the core of the earth. Then imagine your soul partner has the same connection with their soul star. Then complete the “grid” by sending a beam of light from your soul star to the other soul star.

Next, give it all to your Soul, everything, the good the bad and the ugly. Cry if you need to, or scream, but let it all hang out! Then sit quietly while the souls commune. And expect the unexpected, from having the soul partner imagined in the other chair actually converse, to having them call on the phone at the end of the meditation.

You can do this meditation as often as you like, and you should do it two to three times at a minimum. If you’re willing to invest even a tenth of the time into your healing process that you’ve spent feeling miserable, you will not only be able to determine whether or not it’s time to move on – and then do it if need be – you’ll also have found closure in the process.

The "Real" Law of Attraction

The "Real" Law of Attraction
There are so many books promising love, success, money, fame and fortune, if we only follow the rules of these two laws. Given how much material can be found on these topics, one would think that a lot more of us would be a lot more successful. This is because all of these “proven methods” don’t mention a few things that will not only drastically change the outcome, but actually leave you in the exact same spot you found yourself in before you read the book, minus whatever money you spent on the “proven method.”

The Law of Attraction

Wouldn’t it be great if we could all find the love of our lives, our soul mate and life mate, by just following the instructions of a book? Oh, how we hope… and each time another discovery is made that tells us that this is now the real way of finding true love, because new scientific discoveries, as well as ancient truths from a magical book hidden under a rock in the Sahara desert, which carbon dated back 5,000 years ago, are definitely going to work… even for you!

The Law of Attraction does work! But what most “experts” fail to share is the minor detail that you attract who you are, and what you think of yourself! You just have to believe—and, of course, you have to know that you deserve. Just keep repeating the mantra of “I deserve.” It might actually finally get stuck… and backfire!

Why, you ask? A person with low self-esteem, a person who is negative and down on themselves, will usually not suddenly become confident by reading a book, period. Yes, everything is possible, but not by sitting on your butt and doing nothing! Changes require work, and usually hard work! So a person without a shred of confidence will usually repeat the mantra, but take it to a completely new level of extremism. This is when they start telling the whole world “darn it, I do deserve!” The previously sad rants then turn into narcissistic statements of how great they are… and how, sadly, no one recognizes it. Meanwhile, the love they are so desperately seeking stays hidden, because now they sound like desperate and still insecure tools, versus just being downers before.

If we are broken, we will usually attract others who are broken. If we are superficial, we will attract another, who is also superficial. The whole myth of opposites attracting is true for about one minute. Usually, opposites will drive each other crazy in the long run, and do not work out. And when I mean opposite, I mean truly opposite in character and being. Not something lame like different tastes in music or food!

Attracting true happiness has to always start with oneself and the willingness to grow, which means change. I’m a firm believer in therapy, but there are other ways as well. In order to attract what truly makes you happy, you have to first learn to be happy with yourself, knowing who you are and what you really want. Only when you know these things will you know what you truly deserve, without having to blast it from the rooftops.

The Law of Abundance

The same principal listed above also applies for this law. Hence, it is pretty difficult to achieve abundance! For example, when I lost my job, it was pretty hard to sit around and say to myself “don’t worry; you have abundance in your life. You’ll find something and you won’t lose everything you own over it.” The more time that went by, the harder it was to be “positive.” But I knew that if I started panicking or appearing desperate in job interviews, I’d just make my situation worse. But this is where it came in handy that I had done at least some of the work! I did know what I was worth and who I am, even though my foundation had become a bit shaky. I simply would not accept defeat. The thought of losing my home, my car or everything simply didn’t get any power from me. Oh yes, these thoughts occurred, but I would immediately stop myself in my tracks and do something productive, like writing. For some strange reason, maybe because I grew up in such poor conditions, money has not been a source of anxiety or fear in many years. Not because I am so well off, but because I won’t give power to the fear. And while I never became rich, I always had a roof over my head (a nice one), money to pay my car, buy clothes and eat the food I want.

The thing that no one likes to hear is that the life we are living is an immediate result of who we believe we are and what we think is possible. To become this person of Zen, the person who attracts others, in business and personal life, the one with the great friends, the nice things and the happy relationship, and the one who truly feels at peace with themselves and the world, one has to be willing to pay the price. And the price is work.

But I kept my eyes on the prize, and after a while it became a little easier. I started to attract completely different people and situations. But then, I no longer see myself the same way I did a mere year ago, not to mention two or three years ago. I can’t quite describe it, because I am still the same person—and yet, I am completely different. I can do and say things now that I never thought possible. With each passing day, the “new” me is getting stronger, while the old tapes in my head are slowly being overwritten and erased.

I do believe that both laws are accurate and will work. But I never thought it would take that much hard work, dedication and will power to make them happen.

Cutting Energy Cords

Cutting Energy Cords

Energetic cords are lines of psychic energy which connect you to the people in your life. When relationships become unhealthy or abusive, they can become troublesome – if you’re trying to get somebody out of your life who you feel is draining you, and you can’t seem to shake them, often finding your mind drawn back to them and awash in negative feelings – you might be said to be “corded.” Some lightworkers were asked what is the best way to deal with energetic cords:

“Cutting energetic cords is very simple to do,and it can truly restore health and vigor. It may even heal what ails you. It will give you back all of the glorious potential your life has always represented. Cutting energetic cords is something that I have had to do many times. Sometimes the reasons are not even due to negativity, but rather to remove a deep sense of loss and sadness.

“It’s not that I needed to cut out the negativity. Nor did I wish to undo those strong bonds of love. What I needed was to gain a happy spirit again. Cutting cords was necessary to move on with my own life. Sometimes this is very hard to do when someone is missed so terribly. Yet, it can be done. The relationship with loved ones is not over, though knowing one another in the ‘ether’ is very different than a relationship in the physical present. The cords I had to cut were tethers of emotional sadness that often accompany a forced change when a partner, beloved family member, friend or pet departs.

“With belief, this can be a rather easy thing to do. I approach it as if it were a spiritual ceremony. I light candles to quiet an active mind. I breathe deeply and try to achieve a state of calm. When I’m ready, I ask for help and understanding. I ask for cooperation from Spirit and the loved one from whom I am trying to separate. I picture the cord in my mind, reaching out into space, still firmly attached to my target. Sometimes, with lots of affection in my heart, I picture it as a beautiful piece of ribbon. I hold it with my left hand and thank Spirit for all of our rich experience together. They, I purposefully pick up a big pair of imaginary shears and quickly cut the cord. The sense of relief is generally immediate.

“This practice can be used for many different scenarios. You may wish to separate for all time from an abusive relationship. There may be jealous coworkers about who always try to sabotage your best efforts. There could have been a nagging, harping relative who told you that you would never amount to anything. It is perfectly alright to walk away from anyone who intends you harm. It is also absolutely okay to cut the cords that bind you to another’s negative opinion of you, a painful memory or a difficult and energy-draining tug of war. You can tweak the imaginary process in any way that you choose.

“We are so good at creating negativity all by ourselves. It may surprise you to know, you can just as easily remove it for all time.”

“The best way to cut energetic cords is NOT TO CUT THEM! If you just cut, then you leave dangling ends attached to you and to the person at the other end, ends which can (and often do) reattach easily.

“The best way to remove unwanted cords is to gently pull them – by the roots! – from your energy field, and then from the energy field of the other person. Next, bundle up the removed cord and use any technique you like to send the energy back to the Universe to be neutralized and recycled.

“I often work with cords when I do readings, using exactly the technique I described above. However, I’d rather teach callers to be alert for cords themselves, especially negative cords or ones which are attached anywhere other than your throat, heart or second (sacral) chakra, because those can be problematic.

“It also helps to be able to recognize the nature of the energy in a cord, and therefore the cord’s intent … whether you can see it clairvoyantly, or feel discomfort in your body, doesn’t matter. It’s the awareness that counts, and then using just a bit of care when you disconnect.”

What are your favorite ways to cut energetic cords?
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