When our Soulmate Opts Out

When our Soulmate Opts Out

Very few things are as painful emotionally, for men and women alike, as losing (or never consummating) a relationship with someone you feel is a soul partner. Autumn brings back this sense of emptiness, like if a part of our souls will never be ours again. From crying ourselves to sleep when night comes , to walking like zombies through the day, each step reminds us of the one we lost.

And it doesn’t seem to matter whether you recognized the other person as a soul friend, soul mate, or some other kind of soul partner… the fact is, if you have the unshakeable conviction that the purpose the two of you share is unfulfilled, then it seems impossible to let go.

If you find yourself hearing and even agreeing with loving advice and even harangues from friends and family about letting go – and still not being able to let go! – take heart. You can and will heal and move on.

In order to find your way through to healing in these cases, it’s essential to work on it at a soul, not a personality, level. This is important for several reasons.

First, if you’re approaching this on a soul level (see below for one method) you won’t interfere with anyone’s karma or free will.

Second, since the agreement was originally made on a soul level, it can only be fully understood on that level.

And third, since your Soul or Higher Self will be your mediator, it gives you absolute freedom and safety in which to express all your feelings, the high and the low, the murderous and the weepy, the vengeful and the compassionate.

Soul Level Mediation

In the following meditation, your two souls communicate with each other on behalf of their respective people. Then the souls “repackage” the information and insights and compassion they exchanged, and give it to their individual people in whatever form is most effective, whether it’s in dreams, or gut feelings, or signs, or as clear messages during the session.

To prepare for the meditation, create a quiet space, and place two chairs facing each other. As you do this visualization, remember that the more senses you use at each stage, imagining or feeling sight, sound, taste, touch, feeling and intuition, the more parts of your brain are activated, and the more effective the meditation and its outcome will be.

Sit in one chair, and imagine your soul partner sitting in the other. Visualize your Soul as a star high over your head, and that a beam of light connects your Soul to you, shining down through the top of your head, through your body, and down to the core of the earth. Then imagine your soul partner has the same connection with their soul star. Then complete the “grid” by sending a beam of light from your soul star to the other soul star.

Next, give it all to your Soul, everything, the good the bad and the ugly. Cry if you need to, or scream, but let it all hang out! Then sit quietly while the souls commune. And expect the unexpected, from having the soul partner imagined in the other chair actually converse, to having them call on the phone at the end of the meditation.

You can do this meditation as often as you like, and you should do it two to three times at a minimum. If you’re willing to invest even a tenth of the time into your healing process that you’ve spent feeling miserable, you will not only be able to determine whether or not it’s time to move on – and then do it if need be – you’ll also have found closure in the process.